Definition

Verb phrase: 1. To serve oneself; to take something (especially food or drink) without waiting to be served: This phrase is used to invite someone to take what they want, often from a shared selection. 2. To take something for one's own use, often without permission or in a self-serving manner: This meaning can imply taking something opportunistically or selfishly.

Usage

• The primary use is as an invitation or instruction, often in a social setting involving food or drink.
• It is typically used in the imperative mood ("Help yourself") or in constructions describing the action ("He helped himself to the cake").
• The phrase is followed by the preposition "to" when specifying the item being taken.

Examples

• As an invitation:
  • "The drinks are on the table. Please, help yourself."
  • "There's plenty of food in the kitchen. Just help yourselves."
• Describing the action of taking:
  • He saw the cookies on the counter and helped himself to a few.
  • While I was out, my roommate helped himself to my laptop.

Advanced Usage

• "Can't help oneself": This is a distinct, idiomatic usage meaning to be unable to stop oneself from doing something. It is used to indicate a lack of self-control.
  • I know I shouldn't eat the whole cake, but I just can't help myself.
  • She can't help herself from checking her phone every five minutes.

Variants and Related Words

• Self-service (n/adj): A system where customers serve themselves.
  • It's a self-service gas station.
• Serve oneself (v): A more literal synonym for the act of taking food.
  • Guests can serve themselves from the buffet.

Synonyms

• Take: To get possession of something.
• Serve oneself: To take food or drink for oneself.
• Avail oneself of (formal): To make use of an opportunity or resource.

Related Phrasal Verbs / Constructions

• Help yourself to: The standard construction for this verb phrase.
  • Feel free to help yourself to anything in the fridge.

Related Idioms

• "Can't help but...": To be unable to avoid doing something. (Note: This is closely related to the "can't help oneself" construction but uses a different grammatical form).
  • I can't help but think we've made a mistake.

Verb

1. abstain from doing; always used with a negative
   • I can't help myself--I have to smoke
   • She could not help watching the sad spectacle